Congratulations you’re engaged, lap it up, it only happens once (hopefully), enjoy the squeals of excitement, the many offers of help, showing off the ring and enjoy the wonderful feeling of what’s ahead.
Start the journey by having a big brainstorm and careful look at your values and quirks when it comes to hosting and entertaining. Cast aside any old definitive decisions you may have made about your wedding and reconsider this adventure as hosting rather than a wedding, as the “w” word instantly puts things in a box (most of us aren’t square shaped.) As a couple this could mean you have a close group of friends who you feel are really important to involve or it could be as simple as you love great Asian style food. What makes you tick as a couple? What things do you love undertaking together, with friends and family? What are you aesthetically attracted to? What elements of your personal style and lifestyle do you want to share?
Identifying your values and quirks right from the start, enables you to immediately set yourself apart, it gives direction and purpose. Without goals it’s like undertaking a journey without a road map; in the coming months these values will enable you to make clear and decisive decisions amongst all the wedding noise.
Set aside an afternoon, brew a big pot of coffee and write it all down. Ask yourself questions like, is this really us? Why does this matter to me? Am I just going with trends? By the end you want to have three lists, one entitled “top priority” the other “things we’d like, but don’t need” and “avoid at all costs.”
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